Tuesday, November 15, 2016

Day 15: Why Are Men Missing From Menstruation?

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The average woman endures some 456 total periods over 38 years, or roughly 2,280 days with her period -- 6.25 years of her life. And if roughly half the world is female, this is quite an important piece of information. Yet, tell a man you are on your period and see him squirm in his seat. Let's face it! Men aren't comfortable when it comes to this topic. I don't blame them. It must be hard to fully comprehend something they never go through, that women guard like a nuclear code and don't talk about themselves! But it's 2016 and women are opening up. And men - if they pay attention - you will find enough online and off it to stop making excuses and learn a thing or two about it.

Now, if you are wondering why am I dragging you out of your comfort zone and you probably know enough to get by, watch this video and you'll know how little men know about practical things involving periods. In fact, women also should watch this one even if it is for the laughs at men's funny answers about periods.

Dear men, let me start with the good news! You don't have to know EVERYTHING about periods! It's okay if you don't know how is a maxi pad different from a regular one. Or keep a calendar to keep track of your woman's cycle. But rolling your eyes at a woman and assuming it must be that time of the month for her is no longer acceptable. Here are a few things that might help you get a headstart:

Stop being uncomfortable. I'm sure it's hard to talk about something that happens to women's lady parts and I completely accept the blame on behalf of women for your discomfiture. But you can stop feeling uncomfortable now. Because even we aren't anymore. You need to do the next point to help you overcome this faster.

Read up. It isn't as hard anymore to find information. You don't have to rely on women in the family or probe your girl friends for basic information. Go online and there's tons of it. And given your interest, I am sure the women in your life will be happy to help you with their own insights too!

Every reaction isn't PMS. Every outburst of emotion isn't due to hormones. Have you ever considered that you may be THAT annoying and we might be genuinely frustrated? We are just people like you but with wombs.

Don't be so helpless. Cramps are a part of the process and just be there for the women in your life. Learn a few things that might help. And you should definitely know what works for your woman - yes, even if she is your sister!

Buying pads is like buying condoms. Except that, I agree, there can be different choices and preferences of women. Make an effort to understand what your woman prefers. The last thing she wants in an emergency is a clueless, embarrassed you who has has no idea what to do! You aren't illiterate to carry a piece of paper on which she writes exactly what she wants.

If this seemed like a lecture from a podium above, here is an awesome post for men by a man addressing common notions men typically have about periods. I recommend that you be patient and read it till the end. If it interests you, roam around the blog. You'll come back a lot wiser! :)

(I recommend that you - men or women - who read this post watch the videos I have shared! They are quite interesting!)

This post is a part of #NaBloPoMo which stands for National Blog Posting Month hosted by BlogHer.

9 comments:

  1. Awesome post Suman, thanks for sharing!!

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  2. Thanks so much for sharing this. I totally agree! It's an important part of being a woman, and it's not something that we should be embarrassed about. In fact, I think it's a pretty amazing process.

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    1. Thanks for dropping by Margaret! Posts like this are an attempt to continue talking about periods and make it sound normal! :)

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  3. OMG! I saw that video... never knew that the men folks were so ignorant about periods. Pretty surprising. Agree with the pointers you shared. Yes, men should be aware and that would help them in understanding and respecting women much better too.

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    1. Yep! One guy said he had never held a napkin pack in his hand! It's for women to educate them :)

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  4. Well written Suman! I think it is high time that all of us stop acting as if talking about periods is taboo! It is best discussed openly and men be a lot more sensitive about menstruation. In fact, I think it will help if this is explained and discussed in the school. That will get the boys (who later become men), to appreciate and understand women a lot more...

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    1. I agree! There is a lot we need to start teaching at the 'boy' level and let this be one of the things! :)

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  5. Very well put down Suman- Boys need to become Men to their women!!

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